By Dr Kate Brooks
Many years back I was contemplating the need to upgrade in all arenas of life. It felt imperative to know and understand what it meant to ‘love yourself’. Everyone espoused it but I was not feeling satisfied that I was witnessing this concept played out.
I recognized that my prior reaction to sentiments like: You can’t love others until you love yourself, was an anxious feeling that led to rejection. This was not because the concept did not make perfect sense. It was because… I had no idea what it might be like to ‘love myself’! Not having a loving relating within the family that I grew up in, and in fact, having been shown quite the opposite, the thought of giving to myself what others had not, seemed incongruous. It was so foreign that it appeared implausible to my mind, and my heart felt numb to the idea. Added to that were images of sanctimonious hippies and gurus spouting these right sounding thoughts while having wrongly intentioned behaviors. I had been on my own from a very early age so I was quite attuned to how false people could be. These sorts of blanket statements about loving self and others, were often coming from people who were not actually loving others and were decidedly so self absorbed that I could see that they did not actually know or love themselves either.
It was a conundrum! It seemed that even the people who wanted to believe in it… didn’t. The meaning and nuance of self love, floated at the surface and the depths of the idea, did not appear to be tangible. Therefore, I had tucked the concept in the back of my mind and only hoped to understand it later in life.
However, I couldn’t be satisfied to let it lie for long, so I went straight to Source! I asked my Guides and Angels (excellent intermediaries) to assist in that venture. With due gratitude, I was granted access to some ‘schooling’! Upon application to our Guiding Forces, I dreamt, beyond the usual borders of the dreamtime. I traveled to a different space, outside of this realm and was given understandings, much of which I could not recall to mind and only retained in more profound ways.
As I awakened, I was plunged back into this atmosphere! It was with such a force and a clarity that I was indeed coming back into this space and time from what seemed to be far away, that I sat bolt upright, rigid with the shock of returning to this realm. I could still hear the voices of those Angelic teachers echoing in my ear. Suddenly, and with crystal clarity, I said to myself; ‘Oh… It’s my Soul Self I am meant to love, honor and be grateful for… not my materially bound self!
It was instantaneously evident that my physical presentation, personality and character were important factors that should be rigorously maintained at the highest levels… but it is the Soul Self that one loves! by way of loving the Soul Self (the Light Being that we all actually are even as we dance in the physical density) the selfhood of the material manifestation is uplifted and gains it’s most appropriate harmonies in this realm.
Love your Self so that you may… more love your self!
Sacred Relationships: Psychology for the Soul
Dr. Kate Brooks
Author · Holistic Wellness Practitioner · Speaker
Rooted in generations of natural healers, she blends traditional wisdom with modern modalities—offering support in physical regeneration, emotional wellness, and spiritual alignment. A former midwife and mother of eleven, Dr. Brooks has worked globally with communities in South America and Africa, uniting cross-cultural healing practices. Her work empowers individuals to transform their lives from the inside out.
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